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I can't believe it's been a year  / Cynthia Allen (Mommy)  Read >>
I can't believe it's been a year  / Cynthia Allen (Mommy)
Good morning baby,
 Wow, a whole year, a year of firsts filled with heart ache and despair. I don't know what has carried me this far except or God, because I know without him my purpose would not be clear. Alex misses you so much too. We are doing the best but it's just not the same without you here. You were mines & Gods from coneptionn to birth and now your only Gods. I tell people who don'y know me when they ask me if I have kids "Yes, I have two sons. One lives with me and the other live with his father in heaven. I know your happy now because you don't have to do nothing but love and praise God every day, and I shouldn't cry. I cry because I miss you.
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I am very sorry  / Tyler Hager (NONE)  Read >>
I am very sorry  / Tyler Hager (NONE)

My name is tyler and i cant imagine how u feel right now.  I have been to multiple phychiatric units and have never been restrained like that or treated like that. I am compelled to do as much as I possibly can to make sure nothing like this ever happens to any child. These kids need to be helped not killed.  I am 15 with bipolar, ADHD, ODD, and multiple other disabilities. I have made huge improvements on everything. i was told i would never learn to read, write, or do math. I have all A's and B's in all of my classes. They also told me I would never be able to live in the community and I just worked my way out of Foster Care and am now home.  This is not right. I may not have known your son but i'm sure he was a very nice boy who just needed some help.  

                                   Sincerely,
                                         tyler

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In memory of Joey  / Isabelle Zehnder (Someone who cares )  Read >>
In memory of Joey  / Isabelle Zehnder (Someone who cares )
I created a new Blog in memory of Joey called: Joey Aletriz, One Year Later. Joey was a very special person who did not deserve to die the way he did. It is my hope we will all work together to spread the word about restraint deaths and to raise awareness so that other children do not have do die this way. Here is the link to Joey's Blog.

Joey's mom chose a special song for this site and I will share the words here: 

Tomorrow by Tevin Campbell

I hope tomorrow will bring better you, better me
I know that we'll show this world we got more we could be
So you should never give up on your hopes and your dreams
You gotta get up, get out, get into it, get it on to be strong

If we try, we can fly to a whole 'nother place
All we need is belief and a smile on our face
We can go anywhere we want, any road we decide to take
And we're never, never, never too far from tomorrow today

If tomorrow is light in a place where there's none
Then know that now is the time to have faith in us all
Ya know we're all in this world and we all can belong
We gotta get up, get out, get over it, get it on to be strong

If we try, we can fly to a place in the sun
All we need is precious dreams and a friend we can trust
We can go anywhere we want, any road that we can take
And we're never too far from tomorrow today

Ev'rybody say tomorrow is just for us to share
And we're gonna send our message of love out ev'rywhere
There's a promise of love tomorrow has
Something special and it's something we know will last and last

'cause we're never far away, never
One thing i can always be sure of
Far away, no never the promise of today

(repeat *)
(repeat **)

(repeat **)

'cause we're never far away, never
One thing i can always be sure of
Far away, no never the promise of today 

For more on what happened to Joey, click here.

For more on what happened to Angie, click here

Their stories should remind us how important it is that change occur in order that more children will not have to die this way.

Everyone misses you, Joey. It's been nearly a year now!

Isabelle


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Sorry for your loss  / Donna Pavlik (mom of Angellika Arndt )  Read >>
Sorry for your loss  / Donna Pavlik (mom of Angellika Arndt )
I am so sorry for the loss of your son. Unfortunatly, I have loss my 7 yr old girl to a restraint, too. I hope through letting people know what is being done to these kids that restraints can be made illegal someday. It is horrifying to me that they were ever allowed to hold anybody in these positions, let alone kids. Prisoners are treated better than that. I envy the courage you have had to speak out like you have. I hope you continue to let this be heard. So many people that I know are shocked to know how many deaths have be attributed to the things the places that are supposed to "help" our kids are allowed to do. Until it happens to someone close, it remains a silent killer. I never heard of such a thing until Angie's death. What a shame that it isn't made more public so you know what to ask these facilities that are out there doing this.  

My prayers are with you and your family as the anniversary of your sons death approaches. I know it must be a very difficult time. I pray someone is held accountable. God bless.

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One more thing ....  / Isabelle Zehnder (Another voice for Joey )  Read >>
One more thing ....  / Isabelle Zehnder (Another voice for Joey )
Here is something Cynthia said that I would like to share: 

A mother’s plea: “Let us use the death of my son, Joey, to start:
a new beginning … no more restraints … no more deaths … no more injuries.” by Cynthia Allen 

And here's Joey's poem:

IN MEMORY OF JOEY
By Isabelle Zehnder 

It was a cold day in February, All I wanted was to wear my hoody 

They yelled at me, said “It’s forbidden”, They made me feel like I was in prison
 
They grabbed me hard and took it away, I had no idea this would be my last day
 
Before I knew it we were all on the ground, They sat on me so I couldn't make a sound 

I tried to tell them I could not breathe, They would not listen to my pleas
 
They pushed down on my neck so hard, And left my body full of scars
 
My body went completely numb, I knew the end had finally come 

Mama, I would like to say, I didn’t want to die that way



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My Blessing to all the Parents left behind  / Cynthia "Joeys' Mommy" Allen (His voice )  Read >>
My Blessing to all the Parents left behind  / Cynthia "Joeys' Mommy" Allen (His voice )
A MOTHER'S PRAYER TO THE GUARDIAN ANGELS OF HER CHILDREN 

I humbly salute you, O you faithful, heavenly Friends of my children! I give you heartfelt thanks for all the love and goodness you show them. At some future day I shall, with thanks more worthy than I can now give, repay your care for them, and before the whole heavenly court acknowledge their indebtedness to your guidance and protection. Continue to watch over them. Provide for all their needs of body and soul. Pray, likewise, for me, for my husband, and my whole family, that we may all one day rejoice in your blessed company. 

Thank you all for your wonderful thoughts and prayers, it really is what gets me through~
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Let us be his voice  / Isabelle Zehnder (A Voice for Joey )  Read >>
Let us be his voice  / Isabelle Zehnder (A Voice for Joey )
Though I may not have met Joey I feel I know him. I will continue to do what I can to be a voice for him and to help his mom, Cynthia, in her quest to find justice for her son. 

What happened to Joey should never happen to any child. Face-down prone restraints are deadly and in my opinion should be banned. There was no reason Joey should have endured the things he endured during the last moments of his life. Because of that we will keep fighting to get the word out to others. 

I remember last Easter when Cynthia and I spent hours on the phone because she could barely make it through her first holiday without her son. He used to love Easter morning, to find his Easter basket outside his bedroom door. The holidays - Thanksgiving and Christmas - were very difficult times for Cynthia and for other parents who lose their children. 

Please, let us all be a voice for these children who no longer have a voice. I have created a website to try to raise awareness about children who are abused, neglected, and who die in treatment facilities - www.caica.org. Please learn about what is happening to children so you too can be a voice. It is going to take many voices to be heard, let's all work to make this happen. Spread the word and if you know a child is in trouble do what you can to help him or her. We all need to be proactive when it comes to the safety and wellbeing of kids.

Also, I have created a page with all of the articles surrounding Joey's death. You can find it at: http://caica.org/NEWS%20DEATHS%20JOEY%20MAIN.htm

Please visit the memorial website that was created for all children who have died in treatment: http://children-in-treatment.memory-of.com/

Joey, we love you and will never stop fighting for what is right. We will be sure that your death was not in vain and we will make sure people know your story. Your mom and I have become very close friends and even though you and I never had the opportunity to meet each other, I feel I know you through your mom. I know so many of the things you loved, about the type of wonderful boy you were, and how much your mom truly loves you. Joey, she is your voice. I was so proud of her the day she had to speak at a press conference - it snowed that day and the attorney and coroner couldn't make it. But your mom made it and she did such a great job I couldn't believe it! I have the video on my website, and I have your story there too. I am so proud of her and I know she is going to have a strong impact. Her dream is to build a place in your honor where other kids will never suffer at the hands of others. 

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